Humans have a natural connection to numbers. We naturally attach numbers to facts. So, today we’re back with a number: Age. The question is: At what age do you stop giving gifts to nieces and nephews?
There is no officially accepted age to stop buying gifts for your nieces and nephews.
WHAT OTHERS SAY
At age 18, a child legally becomes an adult. At this age, he is entitled to any legal and civil right and benefits that is due an adult citizen.
However, the question of when to stop buying gifts has nothing to do with age.
Gifts are not for children only. People buy gifts for adults too. Gifts are an expression of love, friendship and appreciation. Therefore, there should be no age limit to giving gifts to your nieces and nephews.
If you need to know when to stop taking care of a child and someone says: age 18. Maybe the person can prove his argument. The argument being that at age 18, a child legally becomes an adult.
Talking about opinions, different people have different opinions about this question. But I found this answer on Quora that makes so much sense.
“Stop when you’re ready to stop.”
So, let’s say this is the perfect answer. If you want to stop at age 18, good. Do you think it’s age 21, that’s good too. Are you among those that feel that gift giving should not have an age limit? Then keep giving.
Whatever you choose should be personal to you should not be forced on others.
But some might wonder, will someone even think of discontinuing giving gifts? Well, below are some noteworthy reasons.
WHY YOU WANT TO STOP BUYING GIFT FOR YOUR NIECES AND NEPHEWS
Deciding when to stop giving gifts is more about reason than time. The following points are reasons why some might consider discontinuing gift giving.
- Not enough money
- Motive for giving the gift
- Change in beliefs or orientation.
- Ungrateful nieces and nephews
- Too many nieces and nephews
- You believe they’re older enough
- Restricted budget.
NOT ENOUGH MONEY
This is the king of them all. You should only buy gifts when you can afford it. Never go into debts to get one. There’s always another day to show your love. Or even another way to express love.
MOTIVE FOR THE GIFT
You should give gifts as an expression of love. So, if you’re being pressured to do so, it’s probably time to discontinue it, so as to break free from the pressure.
CHANGE IN BELIEFS OR ORIENTATION
In some places gift-giving is part of religious or other traditional observances. A change in such religious or other affiliation, can result in discontinuing the practice.
For instance, a Christian who turns Muslim, might choose not to give gifts to loved ones during Christmas. The same is true of a Christian convert. A worker who gives gifts to colleagues on certain days, may discontinue it when he leaves the company.
UNGRATEFUL NIECES AND NEPHEWS
According to Healthline, it takes an average of 66 days to form a habit. When gifts are given at particular times in the year, children are likely to view these as ritual. They form a sense of entitlement, and in time, stop showing appreciation.
In this instance, you might view it as a reason to pause such gift-giving or even to discontinue it completely.
TOO MANY NIECES AND NEPHEWS
Have you ever been in that situation where you have only enough for a few persons, but then, you can’t buy for some and neglect the others. You probably decided not to buy at all, right?
Well, kudos to all of you with many siblings. The implications is you’ll likely have many more nieces and nephews. If this is your case, try to be financially buoyant enough to buy gifts for them all. Or just quit so as not to start another world war among the kids (assuming they’re still kids).
YOU BELIEVE THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH
Before saying anything else, let’s make this point clear. You don’t stop buying gifts because someone is an adult.
However, to be balanced in our judgement, it is good to admit that this is why some people stop buying gifts at age 18 or 21.
They feel that their loved ones are now adults and don’t deserve such gifts. If that is your case, we respect your opinion.
Here we are talking about finance, rather than the age of your nieces and nephews.
Buying gifts is not necessary to life or survival. That is, you don’t need to buy gifts to live, just as you need food and shelter to live. So, we can rightly say, gift buying is a want.
This blog has written many articles on budgeting and saving. If you are on a budget rule, for instance the 60-30-10 rule budget then you only have 10% of your income to cater to your wants. The 50-30-20 rule budget, on the other hand, is more lax. Even at this, you only have 20% of your income to care for your wants.
If you have many nieces and nephews, your budget to care for your wants will likely not be enough to buy gifts for everyone.
Even if it is, you’ll be reluctant to spend so much from your budget to buy such gifts.
GIFT GIVING AND BUDGETING
One valuable gift you can give to your nieces and nephew is helping them start a savings or a budget project. Even if you later quit giving them physical gifts after this, you must have gifted them enough for their lifetime.
If you ever considered starting a savings or budget project with your kids, nieces and nephews, then these articles are a fine place to start:
If on the other hand you choose to stop buying them gifts, please remember to continue showing them love in other ways.